People Pleasing Habits
I’m so glad you guys are into the trainer for a day series! I love talking about training, but only quickly mention it here and there on the blog, so it was nice to get into the nitty gritty details.
This morning I woke up fairly early to train a couple clients. I purposefully got to the gym about 20 minutes early to do some TRX-ing.
Holy hell. I’m fairly certain I’m going to be very sore after just a 20 minute workout. I’m not to the point where I feel confident enough to train others with them yet, but I hope to be soon! I also want to take a class to become certified. Get ready for some TRX blog and v-log posts
After a 20 minute chat with my stabilizer muscles, I trained my clients while sipping on my breakfast smoothie. It was a little early for breakfast, but I knew I wanted to get in a run afterward, and that’d be a not so wise idea if my tank was empty.
Not that kind of tank – my fuel tank!
I ran a quick 3 mile HIIT run (5 min. warm up, 30 speed, 60 recover, 5 min cool down,) and then headed home to shower up.
The other day when I was training a client, we finished a set of squats, and I saw that she was rubbing her hip afterward.
“Are you ok?” I asked. Yes, she was fine, she said. But when I told her I asked because I saw her rubbing her hip, she said, “well, it’s been hurting whenever we do squats tonight.”
“Why didn’t you speak up when it started hurting?” I asked. Her answer surprised me, but I could understand. “I guess I didn’t want to let you down!” She thought she would be letting me down for not finishing the set! And I promise I’m not a scary intimidating trainer
Us people pleasers are a rare breed.
Up until a couple years ago, I was the ULTIMATE people pleaser. I couldn’t say no to anyone who didn’t want to hear it, and I wanted everyone to like me. My mom always emphasized how important it is to be nice to everyone, but I think I took it a little far and craved for people’s approval as well.
I’m not as much like that now, and have more of a “they’ll get over it” attitude, while still actively trying to be nice and do the right thing. In fact, I get angry at myself when I catch myself caring too much what other people think of me now.
There’s absolutely no way to please everyone in life. I realize that sometimes I’ll feel let down, and that sometimes others will feel let down because of me – it’s a fact of life. But as long as I keep those moments to a minimum, and as long as I don’t let down those who are dearest to me, who there for me and who are in my life 99% of the time, life will go on.
Maybe I’m just getting old
How’s that for a deep start to a Tuesday morning?
Have a great day, loves! Oh! Also, I’ve been getting more questions after yesterday afternoon’s post. What I’ll do is just edit in an FAQ beneath, so it will all be in one post and you won’t have to click from here to there to there.
Off to shower off from that treadmill run and get ready for the day. Ciao!
Do you consider yourself a people pleaser?